What’s Dating Like in China for Americans? | Street Interview
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- Опубликовано: 2 июн 2024
- There are many ways to discover cultural differences and today we did just that through people's dating and relationship stories. What’s it like dating in China for Americans? What challenges and cultural lessons come with it? We hit the streets of Shanghai to find out.
0:00 - Intro
1:11 - Dating experiences in China
3:31 - Dating Apps in China
8:09 - Cultural differences
12:52 - Experiences with Chinese parents
16:16 - Challenges of dating in China
20:01 - What have your dating experiences taught you about Chinese culture?
The opinions expressed in this video are those of individual interviewees alone and do not reflect the views of ASIAN BOSS or the general American population.
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"The name was probably the most interesting thing about her" MANS A SAVAGE HAHA
Oof
Yeaaahh.... "Gucci let's hav-"
Just be black bro lol
4:32
5:50 there's a couple in the background so loving and intimate even with masks lol
Woah sis moved to a whole other country to be with the man she loves😭 that’s so cute
Same, I met a Chinese man and I'd move across the world for him
Why Americans of this channel are all intelligent and cool? Different from Americans of CNN and Fox News.
@@binchen well that just shows the quality of this channel, right? I personally enjoy their street interviews basically in every region, especially east Asia, IMO they probably had one the best street interview content on the internet
@@binchen Those kinds of people are more likely to participate in society as open-minded global citizens.
@@binchen Look at the channel name. Anyone who looks at this channels videos longer than a quick glance would have some sort of interest in Asia. People who go on CNN or Fox is more representative of those channels audience which is mainstream and going to include the lunatic's we've come to expect
I can feel that Chicago guy’s pain. If my girlfriend’s English name is Walmart I will be upset as well
LMFAOOO
lol
😂😂😂
dead
🤣
“She dumped me outside a Costco.” Omg. I’m dead. 😆😆😆
What is Costco tho?😅
@@sarthak8802 a supermarket chain, one costco store is super big
@@sarthak8802 like the Asian version of Walmart
@@whatthehellisthis6245 lmao
Actually that Costco located in Shanghai is not really far from the city center, you can take the metro from city center to that Costco for about 50 minutes.
They finally posted my silly interview! HAHA!
@@tony-lam Good god, man. 1:05
@@tony-lam The interview was a couple of weeks go I think.
The Gucci thing was great. Greetings from Bronzeville.
You were so funny! I can’t wait to visit China again. I’ll bump into you on the street 😂
Hi from Chicago’s Chicagoan
"Cultural differences are just that. But people are people." Beautifully put 👏
Everyone has the same emotions. The difference is what triggers them. I've lived in 8 countries and travelled in 22 and cultural differences are what make or break a relationship. Whether it's business or personal relationships there has to be points at which cultures meet or ain't nothin' happenin'."
literally doesn't say anything or have substance
@@standardbrah it is saying people have their differences but they are still people who are similar at the end of the day.
@@sergel02 it's saying cultural differences are cultural differences but people are people. I get it...but I mean...hardly a revelation 🙄
@@standardbrah Yeah I mean it can be understood in either way, so it's basically saying nothing.
The girl with the green hair: if you are reading this, you are the cutest thing I have seen and give off such kind vibes 🥺
Same , I hope she’s doing well
she's so funky
Maybe she is a youtuber, tiktoker or something
Isn’t she the same girl from the “Why do Americans live in China” video!?
@@rubid7317 yes
I'm Chinese. I can say something about the opinion of saying "thank you" in Chinese culture. When we grew up, at least for me, is that we don't say thank you to the people who are really close to us. Saying "thank you" will often make people feel like an outsider in your life, especially when they just want to do nice things to you, or even just regular things. I distinctly remembered my mom feel a little bit sad when I express thanks to her after I came back from the states. For me personally, I always felt my American friends being over-polite, but I soon realized it's just a cultural difference, as they often joked themselves of being too thankful in front of me.
Do you believe it's the same in Taiwan?
Cause I believe in Taiwan people are generally politer, it's not AS stigmatised to say thank you to your family
@@cm-yu6gu Like I said, it's not about "politeness". Mainland people could be as polite as anyone in the world to non-family members. As for Taiwan, we all know it underwent a long period of Japanese colonization, while the Japanese are well-known for their hierarchy manner. Plus, my personal experience in Taiwan was also not perfect: people treat you differently just because you speak Mandarin or English. It's a highly politically and culturally inconsistent area, so anything won't surprise me really.
Hi! This is really interesting and I’m glad you have imparted this wisdom upon us all. I never knew this before reading your comment. It made me realize as an American that the phrase thank you is used a lot and in relation to service industries and retail workers who are in a way social and economic outsiders in our country. If I were to travel to China, would you mind sharing a phrase I could use (Chinese or English) that would express gratitude? :)
If I were to travel to China
It really is a cultural difference. We are taught from when we are children to say "thank you" whenever someone does something nice for you, and that you are very rude if you don't do it! Even with family and friends. In fact, if you don't say "thank you" enough, people will think you don't appreciate them and will get upset lol
@@AG-ne3rh I think "thank you" would be ok to use with people you don't know well (like service workers), although they would probably use it less often than we would. Using it with family and friends is the cultural difference - it makes it seem very formal to Chinese people.
The guy who started laughing when they asked him about dating is me 😂😂😂
lmao comment of the year😂😂
omg really?!?!?! lmao😂😂
Lol, good interview though!
That how explicit do you want me guy? 😆 you are hilariously well-spoken.
You mean metaphorically right? cuz it doesnt match your pic
"my names gucci"
"oh no way im supreme"
this really got me hahahaha
Hahahaha~ so funny!
Yo my name is Northface!
I actually like supreme lol
With two eyes
Only dated one girl when I lived in China (my first love actually). We met when I was travelling and stayed in contact long distance for several months before I bought a one way ticket back there to look for work teaching. We dated for 2 years and had a massive wedding in her hometown. Marching band, huge performances, traditional Tang clothing, horse, huajiao sedan chair etc. Even the ceremony involved crossing the bridge, stamping on rice, stepping over fire, firing the three arrows (sky, chair, ground) and drinking baijiu through interlocked arms.
That was 10 years ago. 10 years happily married this year in my home country. I doubt we would ever move back to China to live though. We have established our lives here in Australia.
I guess it's still rare these days to fall in love and marry your first love. But I'm blessed to never have experienced the pain of a breakup etc.
Me too. My husband and I got married five years ago and he is my first love
This is so beautiful! So many cultures have horrible experiences around men, dating and marriage. Yours was really nice. I don’t think it was meant to be that way but society has taken us there.
Damn you're living my dream
so sweet. bless you
Wow people like you really are the chosen ones…lucky you!
The black lady who talked about the issue with fetishizing has the most soothing voice. I could listen to her talk all day.
And you are also fantasizing her.
@@KH-cs7sj I assure you my comment isn’t that deep, stop reading too far into it.
I didn't like the part where she tried to generalize all Chinese girls though
@@y2m3e.45 Yes, I could see how that is offensive. Not all women search for the same qualities in their partners or even have the same methods of going about finding someone they are interested in. I’ve noticed this is a generalization that happens quite often unfortunately.
@@y2m3e.45 There is nothing wrong with generalizing if its true and not obviously disrespectful
bro if your girl leaves you at a Costco with no ride and dead phone, at least you'll know she wasn't the one 😌
Yeah honestly a win. I call that one less divorce
Talk about seeing the bright side
@@lb4581 At least she was direct with her dislike. A lot of Chinese girls aren't.
@@windywendi yup nothing wrong with that
Please what is a Costco?
This is actually really interesting. Not every topic needs to be so gloomy
Asian Boss actually started doing these casual topics, so I'm delighted to see them returning to their roots.
Or political
they just want to avoiding china issues topic.
Agreed
Exactly why I stopped watching so much. They used to do really fun topics but then started the political stuff, which I don't mind, but they tend to avoid actual heavy stuff, like the concentration camps in China. Makes it seem disingenuous
An interview with an openly Bisexual Black American man living in China?? What a time to be alive ❤️✨🏳️🌈✨ ❤️
cultural marxism and disgusting
@@NoName-vy8vu being gay is marxism? gay people exist everywhere on the entire planet for all time this is no marxism. wait a minute, are you one of those guys that thinks anything you don't like is marxism, nazism, pedophilia, leftists, democrats, etc?
So the black guy date woman and men
Cedric Earl yes
Unfortunately this is nothing new, I feel like you gay black dudes are getting the big push in all forms of media.
the guy whose talking about saying 'thank you' and being dumped at costco has SO much energy he's so excited
Haha he was very cute, like a little boy telling his parents a thing that happened to him in school 😆
All of the interviewed Americans are so eloquent and nice! If I was interviewed on the street I would be wayyy to nervous to talk so casually😂
Haha 99 percent of americans aren't like that
I think these ppl have been contacted to meet up on the street, rather than randomly encountered.
@@ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh123 That’s such an obviously made up percentage.
That’s one thing I love about Asian boss. They always pick people who can present their feelings accurately and holistically. It’s not like other channels who just go out and compile the most clickbaity responses of people answering questions off guard.
I think they select carefully who they interview.
there was a chinese joke be like：on the subway, I heard a foreigner crying on the phone: "You don't love me at all! You are with me just to learn English!"
I had a woman try to sleep with me, just to learn more English. That was her direct offer. No lessons, no practice pronunciation, just let me talk to you in English anytime and you can get with me in exchange. She came from a poorer region of western China, so she was used to 'exchanging' services when lacking of money. I did not accept because it felt like a trap/scam. As a darker skinned American, you do not take chances against the Chinese police if she claims rape.
@@alpha3305 I think that was a right move you did there.
@@alpha3305 I'm sure it's a scam,
@@alpha3305 I don't think that 'exchanges' like that are something that's normal for her. I'm also from the west part of China. If she's that poor, which I highly doubt, she would not be speaking a word of English. So that was more likely a scam.
This joke would work in South Korea too haha.
Tips for foreigners who want to get married to Asians, LEARN THEIR LANGUAGE. Asian people are very family-centric and you're ought to be close to your in-laws as much as your own parents. Therefore, communication is a big thing. If you can speak their language even a little bit, at least to the point where you can have a casual basic conversation with them, you'll be guaranteed an approval.
Im chinese and yes I make my American boyfriend learn chinese hahs
Me, a sad Blasian that doesn't know her mom's language well enough. 😭
I think you're indonesian by your name, yeah chinese culture is quite similar to ours, but they are more outspoken which put their feelings aside, simpler and create a familiar environment.
@Mark Steinhofer no one forces you to? Lol I'm proud of my nationality and my mother-tongue too. But I'm talking with my fiance in his native language while I teach him mine.😁
Marriage and dating is more about the love and respect ❤️ for the spouse.
Not about ego, or patriotism 😂
@Mark Steinhofer Who the hell would want to be with a Proud nationalistic German . . Why do I feel like that is code for "fascist".
The "thank you" thing is legit. If you are polite to your close friends, they think you are putting distance between you and them
in america isn't thanks like a more casual way of saying thank you? i grew up in America and say thanks to my friends, but not really my family (I usually say something along the lines of yay)
The guy in video is talking about the “friend” whom he was dating with, or the girlfriend. In China , we don’t get used to say thank you to your closest people , like family or spouses
I’ve met a Chinese guy who’s English name was Bingo, bless him 😭
My aunt is Chinese, her name is Ying Ying, literally the easiest name to pronounce and her coworkers call her Sharon for the past twenty years because its "easier".
So, I lived there for around 5 years and the best name I ever heard was POTATO
Is Alan ok? My English name is Alan😅
@@SWIFTIESCHN that's good. it's nice and simple.
Bingo actually isn’t that bad considering what it could be
“Naturally you asked us about the dating life in China because of course that’s the most important question to ask right now” pain
right?!
They should ask Chinese men how dating is in America. Its dreadfully bad.
I think that was an attempt at sarcasm, but the his tone was off (probably due to him rehearsing the line in advance)
@Step Bro Help I'm Stuck! White girls don't like them. They are racists.
@Step Bro Help I'm Stuck! having negative stereotypes about chinese..
It's pretty normal until they bring up marriage within the first month of dating😂
Tsk. Yeah feel free to generalize more.
@@nehcooahnait7827 Error 404: humor not found.
@@tinomorgenstern3430 Maybe improve your humor if it’s all based on stereotypes and low effort jokes
@@AmusingMusic Maybe improve your life if you feel the need to play joke police on the internet.
@@tinomorgenstern3430 very funny and creative mr circus clown
My mom didn't talk to my wife at all when they first met, not because of the language barrier, just she couldn't understand why I don't end up with a Chinese girl. I love my Mom just sometimes I need to stand up for me and my wife, either accept it or lose it. now they are best friends, against me all damn time.
that's so beautiful, I always love to hear about good-working intercultural relationships! (coming from a intercultural family myself) also the "mother and wife as a team against you" thing is so classic :D
wish you guys all the best!!
Once Chinese people accept someone as a true friend, then they view that person as one of their own, like family. They demonstrate their affection and appreciation for their close relations through every day action rather than words. Saying thank you is very easy; demonstrating care and appreciation on a day to day basis through action has much more depth and takes much more efforts. So in a way verbally saying thank you is the easy way out. Also once you accept someone as one of your own, there is no need to verbally thank each other, why would you thank yourself :-)
Why not do both? Why throw politeness out the window? It doesn't have to be one or the other.
@@Rem694u2 hmm, in Chinese culture, it’s actually not considered impolite to not verbally thank family members or close friends as you dedicate your lives to each other. It’s like your arm doesn’t have to thank your leg. You are one.
@@Rem694u2 Because politeness implies a type of distance, like you don't know them very well and want to make a good impression. For close friends and family, using too-formal or polite language would mean that you want to break off the relationship or distance yourself from them.
@@kky-jd3xj That literally doesn't make any sense to me. But ok. lol
Thabk you warm the hearts. So keep doing it.
8:28 I’m chinese american and i’ve NEVER noticed this till now! i never express gratitude towards my chinese friends but then say thanks all the time to my american friends LMAOOO
This is so true. The closer Chinese people are, the less gratitude they express verbally. In China, people rarely say thank you to their parents, because it sounds so formal and distant.
@@victorxu1903 As a Chinese I never thought of it that way. That is very true
im chinese canadian and i say thank you to everyone but then get uncomfortable when ppl say it to me
@@q_q123 I know, right? Personally, I have trouble saying thank you to my parents. Sometimes I try to say it, but I just can't. It's like there's a lump in my throat. However, I can easily say thank you to strangers such as waiters. I heard some people expressed their gratitude to their parents and their parents' first reaction was they're gonna die of terminal cancer.
@@goldsunsilvermoon I am not Chinese but I say thank you all the time but if someone says that to me I will be like that was unnecessary
To the guy who said Chinese people keep telling him not to say thanks: I assume he was referring to "不用谢" which in direct translation means "don't say thanks" but what they really meant was "it's okay" / "no problem" / "don't worry about it".
This black lady is so onto something. So heartwarming, I hope her messages spreads 🙏🏾
@United Shame of America she only has accountability for herself. You can’t cry about racism and be racist yourself.
Not really. She’s bringing the American “I’m not like other girls I’ll date you without proving to me you can take care of me” with her sense of moral superiority. Of course we can see the effects with this thinking that a lot of BW are baby mamas and in poverty while Chinese women require more and make what’s necessary clear from the first date
When I was living in China I went out with a friend For the first time and I thought it was just a hang out. Turns out he thought it was a date. He had booked a hotel room and didn’t notify me until we were in the taxi. I instantly told him no, and he thought it would be okay because “Americans were easy.” I was so shocked and left him in the taxi....
Well it happens actually although I am 17 I have read about stuff like this in my free time men who don't have enough experience how to talk with girls and understand them rush things like crazy they assume things themselves and then take ridiculous actions
@@mrityunjaygangsta7326 exactly. I took the time to explain to him that i was not willing to go to the hotel room with him. I also told him that we were just friends and I wanted to stay that way. It was very awkward for both him and I. But I hope he never does it to another women again...
hahah
It was really terrible that he did that ... I feel sorry that you had to experience this.
haha
1:46 It's amazing you interview this girl again, and she changed her hair from white to yellow-green!😂😂😂
Love her though! Love her style. And she actually has insightful things to say.
She found her hair products!
@Rest in Pog I fail to see how that proves that. It would waste a lot of time to just stand on a street corner and hope that an American foreigner that lives there passes by. Generally I’m sure they use their connections or social media to say hey, we will be in this location on this day and we need Americans that live in Shanghai to do interviews for us. It’s not that those people are paid or the interviews are fake, they just choose to show up and maybe that girl chose to show up for more than one interview.
@@laurenc292 you spitting facts!!!
@@olichan4837 those are wigs lol
I have a Chinese friend who used to give me money in cash(approx $500) as a b'day gift or as a new year's present. It was quite surprising for me. BTW Chinese are really down-to-earth and family-oriented.
Yeas , definitely family-oriented, and we are also way too straightforward for some people.
“The name was probably the most interesting thing about her” Cold-Blooded my guy.🥶😂
Also, the best part of this video is you interviewing people of so many different ethnicities, including Asian, who are Americans living in China. It's really fascinating and illuminating in many different ways. Again, this is awesome work you do. Thank you!
you mean they are asians that grew up in america and now live in china ...
don't thank lmao
@@amanthattellsthetruth9792 They are Americans who grew up in America and now live in China.
@@amanthattellsthetruth9792, the nationality is assigned to the person if they are born on the country they are in... so i think what they are saying they are born in america and they are american and now living in china...
@@MayTheSchwartzBeWithYou but they are already asians ... so wtf are you even talking about ... They are asians that grew up in america and now they are back in china
I really like how to guy, wearing the north face windbreaker, speaks. He is full of energy and his eyes are full of emotions.
I agree he seems genuine and kind
Really charismatic WTF
Professor energy
Why are you gay
Thanks man hahaha
That black lady's thinking and opinions are so good.. I appreciate her..❤️
I'm South African, I lived in Shanghai over 16 years ago and then moved to Singapore. I'll be relocated BACK to Shanghai for work in a few months and I'm so, SO excited to see how different it will be. Time moves doubly as fast in China... and I'm so excited to see other foreigners speaking so happily and openly here! Thank you! Looking forward to returning!
Hi fellow Staffa! Hope to see you in a few months!
If you mind me asking, what do you for a living?
What do you do for a living to move around ?
Really, dating isn't about etnicity but more about personality... like what she said..
race isn't sometimes but culture and political beliefs are. You have too be real naive to think not
𝑰𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒊𝒏 ¢𝒓𝒚𝒑𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒎𝒚 𝒂𝒅𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 Vitor Castro
𝑯𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒗𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒂𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒏 ω𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒔𝒂𝒑𝒑
+ I >2 >O> 9> 3> 9> I >O >8 >9> 3...
As an Asian (Chinese) guy I really wish I had more courage dating non-Asian girls ... I always thought I would be refused because of my race and culture.
@@windywendi As a non chinese i need courage to talk and date chinese girls And i am so fuckin scared because i don't even know a bit about them
@@kakashi5708 At least most of the Chinese girls (at least in your country) can speak English. If you are in China, being good at their language is a great way to impress them.
Damn after hearing these interviews, I really want to know what dating is like for Chinese citizens when they've studied abroad. That'd make a great interview.
most Chinese people I have seen who study abroad are too shy / studious to be concerned with dating, they hang out with other Chinese students and that's mostly it. This is just my experience.
@@SurfistaCamad The last part where they hanging out with same race is part of common human behavior, but I suppose you could said propaganda to stereotyping Chinese is successful in your country if you could spouting this nonsense
@@SurfistaCamad I love you. I am still virgen
@@SurfistaCamad idk man clearly at least one guy got a wife out of it.
@@SurfistaCamad Oh believe me you wouldn't believe the kind of drama that comes out of a small group of people who hang out with each other all the time.
That one blonde guy that was complaining about the 'thank you' thing seems really fun and cool😂😂
This was soooo good! Kudos, AB! This could literally be a mini-series! As the one sister said, people are people and we all just want to make connections, be affirmed and loved. As with any culture, once you’re in, you’re in! Grüße aus der Schweiz!
Love the black woman's energy. So warm. I wish the best for her!
Agreed, spoke from the heart and had good vibes
@@burntsoup She is talking from her viewpoint from living in China.
@@burntsoup I lived in china for 5 years. She's not wrong. The average Chinese woman is more concerned with wealth than the average American woman.
@@burntsoup I don’t know if it takes dating millions of American women or millions of Chinese women to realize that American women tend to be a bit less invested in the material aspect of their relationship than than their Chinese counterparts. This is evidenced by the fact that she says what guys immediately start talking about on dates. Obviously, they’re usually expected to talk about that kind of stuff (job etc.). None of that is to say that there aren’t Chinese women with substance, just that there tends to be more of a frequency of this type of expectation among Chinese women, which is neither wrong nor too vast a generalization.
@Moonlight Streams I’m not sure which point of mine or the lady in the interview you’re refuting, exactly.
Something about how he said "that's the most important question to ask" sounded very sarcastic 😂😂.
I love you. I am still virgen
@@juanpedro4083 creep
@@saji2203 why? I think I am down bad
RIGHT LMFAOO
@@saji2203 I love you too
21:07 - "We're all looking for a connection, no matter where they're from, it's just about making connection with the one who's right for you"
CAN WE GET AN AMEN 👏🙏
2:00 The guy wearing the red jacket, I'm 99% sure he used to teach me in high school. I was in Ningbo back then and now I'm in Australia. Good to see you man.
6:08 I think it's really interesting but also really sad about what the woman said about being fetishized... I hope she can find a true connection soon.
She's got such a warm spirit. Ive never not been fetishized when dating in asia. It was always about my body/skin/eyes. Never about me as a person.
@@sarahharris2729 China is no immigrant country, so we are kind of interested in appearance first, then the personality.
@@sarahharris2729 In Asia, most of us don't want to date outside of our race. If we, I'm sure more than a half of us are only interested in sexual relationship.
I agree with ancient time,
In my experience anyway.
What I see is China is a huge place, with all kinds different people, and culture.
There's all kinds people you can find there.
I don’t see what’s wrong with being fetishized, it’s not u can chance ur skin color so why not embrace it
8:44 yess I’m Malaysian Chinese and I hate it when my friend says “Thank You”, it’s too formal, we are best friends and it’s normal that I help you out whenever you need! Thank you put distance between us and makes me feel like we are acquaintance instead of best friend.
I prefer my best friend says “thanks”/“love you much” as opposed to “thank you”
In Chinese, would prefer 谢啦 as opposed to 谢谢 .
But in a more serious situation, and we like to express our sincere gratitude for their help, we will use “Thank you” so we know we are truly grateful for their help, it’s really different from western culture, but I prefer this way 😂
𝑰𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒊𝒏 ¢𝒓𝒚𝒑𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒎𝒚 𝒂𝒅𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 Vitor Castro
𝑯𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒗𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒂𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒏 ω𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒔𝒂𝒑𝒑
+ I >2 >O> 9> 3> 9> I >O >8 >9> 3...
Yeah same haha I’m a Malaysian and I don’t really say thankiew to my friends cause it makes me feel like we’re not close hahaha, we usually just say luv u ahahhahahahahaa
@@burntsoup I’m Thai and I’ve never heard of showing your palm ✋ is rude in Thailand before. Who told you that?
@@burntsoup i see, I thought that you mean can show your palm ✋ at all or something like that. Lol
@@cyang2000ify that's very true. Japanese say thank a lot. Probably the most among in all Asia countries.
There's a useful book on the topic of mentality differences called "The Culture Map" and it's pretty well explained (and it matches the reality) that asian cultures are high-context while US culture is the most direct (lowest context) so it explains a lot of frustration in the answers of this interview
That's a great book and recommendation. I attended a work training based on that book and it helped me just as much in my personal life as my work life.
I miss China - I want to go back so bad. It feels so good there like it's a different feeling than America - like I feel like I can be more free in a way, go out late at night alone & not worry about getting mugged or attacked or raped.
but Chinese firewall is pretty annoying 😅 you cannot use any USA apps
That's the culture. American culture sucks in all honesty you can thank liberalism.
@@yunni3371 you can use VPN in there but maybe tiktok is not okay
@@ddcao5203it works fine I’m in china right now
As a Chinese American, this is a very interesting topic to look at...
Yo batman! I don't wanna see you getting ruined for no good reason so please gtfo of the states.
@@potatomatop9326 ?
@@potatomatop9326 troll
@@joemon5650 stupid. You living under a rock?
@@yaboy1689 pro ccp shill?
I love the addition of LGBT interviewees in China and would like an in depth video on mixed gay couples and being gay in China in general.
Gay are more safe and less discriminated in China than the so-called the land of the free, US.
Young Chinese would respect other's choice.
Chinese society to LGBT is like they don't agree but they also not against it.
Me too!.That would make for a really great interview it think.
@@mboihk3796 true
Throughout Asia I've found that "romance" is heavily outweighed by pragmatism. Seems honest to me, that real love is seen as something that you nurture by being supportive. In the West we've been sold this marketing BS about 'real love' being romantic. Romance is the sugary icing, not the cake.
If you speak to older Americans, you will realize that we used to be pragmatic as well. Statements like "he's got no business getting married when he can't even take care of himself". This is why Chinese women ask openly if the men have a house, car, job. It's economic suicide making another mouth(s) to feed if you can't even reliably feed yourself. Credit card debt and welfare are not long term solutions or things anyone should be relying on in any country.
Regarding the guy saying girls asking him to not say, "Thank you." It's just their way of saying "You're welcome." When they do it in Chinese, you will say "谢谢 (xie xie)" and he or she will respond "不用谢 (bu yong xie)" which literally translates to "No need for thanks"
我一般说“没事儿”哈哈哈突然怀疑自己说话正不正常
@@mackayla8262 it's normal
What the guy in the black hoodie said reminds me that a lot of Chinese would break up with their foreign partners because they finally pass spoken English tests.
I dont think that's the whole story here. Many Asian women have unrealistic fetish/fantasy about white guys, and after being with one, they realize the guys are just normal people and not Thor, so they got disappointed and lost interest
@@mangos1346 Of course, people break up for various reasons. I didn't say all of the Chinese people who were in a relationship with foreigners would break up with their partners after they passed spoken English tests. There's even an interviewee who's in a transracial marriage in this video.
@@mangos1346 are you kidding me? Chinese people don't think White people are like Thor lol Teaching English in Asia has taught me that the opposite is more true. I've seen more yellow fever than Thrilla in Vanilla lol 😂
@@marrokraff998 Definitely checkout Taiwan, Japan, and southeast asian countries. The women there are more white worshipping than Chinese
@@mangos1346 you know very little about women and even less about Asian women. This is the difference! Barely any Asian women fetishize about White men but most White men fetishize about Asian women.
That girl who dumped that guy outside Costco knowing his phone is dead is definitely someone you should avoid. Even in terms of dating. Because this is the most polite she is ever going to be.
That black dude is hilarious. The name story got me XDD
Some people are like that! They don't respect the other half or they are not really committed to a relationship like that guy said. It's probably the best that they split their ways, that girl can date a camera and a tripod lol.
@受活 There are principles one should follow. If you dont even have the basic respect to help someone get home when you break up with them, you should have broken up with them way earlier at a much better time.
@受活 I'd never leave someone who I was intimate with stranded with no taxi or car. I am only intimate with those I have a basic respect for.
@受活 Yikes, excusing trash behavior is not the move. Dont project your thoughts into a situation, take the facts as what they are and in this situation, that was trash
If you are uncomfortable to take a pic for your girlfriend in Costco you are the ideal type to be in a relationship either.
Damn it’s sounds peaceful there. Like all the bystanders and passing cars are quiet during the interviews.. There’s no ruckus or cars honking.
Of course, the driving culture in China is improving. People are getting more polite and well-mannered.
Lol you'll get a ticket for honking in Shanghai. They literally have cameras with sensors all over the place
Shanghai and southern China are great in terms of traffic. Beijing though - good lord - horns are always honking. It's like being in Miami/NY with all the impatient drivers.
What an amazing channel! I really love the sound quality that your microphone produces
The background kiss at 5:50 was so cute!
Oops, didn't notice that ... got pounded in the face as a single :(
What was cute
Thank you for point it out! 💕💕
ahhh thank you for pointing this out
I just rewind the video to see it😂
The Costco story is hilarious lol, poor guy though
The costco guy had some of the best stories. I wanna hear more from him.
I am really impressed with all the people from the U.S who did the interviews. They gave really thoughtful and genuine and intelligent answers.
agreed
can't stop laughing about the unreal, photoshopped dating pictures lol so true...
There are only so many lies we can tell in life 😒those filters need to be banned because those are lies on another level.
@@lbvg1013 lol !! I can't agree more hahahahhahaha
Agreed. When I see an Asian person with heavy filters I can always tell they're foreigners
But the camera in phones make your flaws look so much worse. I think it's okay to make some fair adjustment. 🤣
it’s a pretty common thing to do in east asia lol
the woman who spoke at the end was so thoughtful and intelligent, i feel like we have very similar values regarding what we search for in relationships
Love ur icon.
"I'm a big personality person."
Yes. Yes you are. ❤️
This was really interesting to watch! I also loved that you talked to a racially diverse and orientation diverse group of folks!
Americans are so sweet.They always look everything in an optimistic way.Deeply affected by their positive energy.
Thank you!.Your comments are so sweet!.I feel the same way about Asians!.😇❤️
Lol, if these people decided to go to China, probably they don't have the negative preconceived notion about China and Chinese people. Saying Americans are so sweet is a lil bit off for me, I've just watched a video of Asian woman got kicked and beaten for no apparent reason simple because she is Asian, and the other Americans who saw the horrible attack on a helpless woman who obviously could not fight back decided they did not see anything. There's nothing sweet about "some of them" for sure.
@@glowndark1 True
Regarding what the guy from Georgia said:
There is also a difference between Chinese millennial women( born 80s and 90s) and the ones born after 2000s. The millennial women kind of went through a similar movement like US went through in the 60s, since they grew up in conservative families, most of them had a sexual liberation awakening pretty late in their lives, and they tend to want to have fun for a while and enjoy the fact that, for the first time in history, women in Chinese societies are not rushed to get married before 25 or 30. The Chinese guys same age or older still tend to be more conservative, thus these women choose not to settle, especially the ones who moved to big cities. There was a time “sex and the city” was quite popular among millennial Chinese women living in big cities, so there is a certain level of relatability.
But I do find younger generations (born in 2000s) mostly start moving beyond that phase collectively and instead wanting more commitment in the relationships. A lot of them had a normal teenager life growing up (dating in high school is more common, but not a thing for many millennials because of parents were against it), and they are less about sex but more about relationships.
That being said, as a millennial myself, we do also move out of the “sexual liberation” phase eventually, so if it’s the right person don’t write people off because of this :)
I'm not criticizing Chinese women. I think they are smart and beautiful, and they are very skilled at getting what they want from Chinese men. Life is hard for men in China.
After breakup most people takes time to move on but damn 1:25 is single and ready to mingle. You hard bro🔥
I remember asked to do this interview on the street but I said I was busy- actually had a very bad day so I didn't want to speak. Now that I am watching wished I pushed myself to talk about it. Great work
China seems to accept foreigners of different races and backgrounds. White, Black, non-Chinese Asian, LGBT, or a green-haired lady can live in China, find jobs, and even date or marry the locals.
China as a 2nd largest economy of 16 trillion dollars have 661 cities . They only cover shanghai city 🤦
@@sheenasmith4555 so? Sheena girl maybe they are based there lol
I like how a gay man was interviewed was openly proud.
Chinese people are very opened minded, they may not agree with it but will most definitely tolerate and accept it. Most don’t care in the sense of a “you do you” type way.
buddhism isn’t homophobic like Christianity and Islam iirc
@@MJRUclipsrs china is atheist.
@@V-oe9cu Uhmmm maybe do some research on that lol China is made up of many cultures and religions! China has its mythology from the old day is well.
@@flyz91 have you never heard of cultural revolution??
Love the last lady's comment! "Cultural difference is just that, people are people."
my old college friend was in the beginning of the video--what a pleasant surprise to see--but unfortunately never got to hear his take. he's a funny dude, i wish they would have included his experiences!
I love how the girl is trying to talk about her husband’s parents with this passive agressiveness
Hahahahah love her 💞💞💞
Baechy face?
That guy that stated “Chinese girls don’t like it when you say thank you!” He’s sort of right. I’m with a Chinese girl now and she detests whenever I bring up the word thank you. Really strange to me but whatever
When you say thank you to chinese they don't say you are welcome they usually answer don't have to, or no need. I guess is the way to express their politeness.
politeness is reserved for strangers in Chinese culture. People don't even say thank you to their parents
@@yf4044 We never say love either.
he talk just like CDawgVA from TrashTaste i can`t
To many Chinese, saying thank you usually happens for stranger or those not close to you. Its like a formality by saying too much thank you. Once in a while on special occasions saying thank you can melt their heart but not on everything.
FINALLY GETTING THE PERSPECTIVE OF GAY PEOPLE!!!! Pls do that more! With other countries like Korea and Japan too. I’ve only seen them featured in China videos…
@8:43
"saying thank you puts distance between you & them"..totally agreed
I really like the young wife/mom in the jean jacket! Her story is fascinating and I can hear how much she loves her husband and her in-laws.
l like her too, her husband is soooooo lucky
Lesson 1: how to dump a guy- take him to Costco and force to do something uncomfortable. He doesn’t, then you give him the finger. 🤦
Wang yibo xiao zhan 😁😁
@@turina.gogoilyngdoh8249 😁yes, I’m a huge fan of both.
@@movies4fanaticks772 me too😂😂🤣
I'm all for women's equality. But these things actually hurt women in the long run. They feel they get away with anything, and end up destroying all their relationships.
@@weareorigin I think that was a joke. Also you don't know how the true situation was, maybe she was already fed up with him and that was the last straw. And the thing about feeling you can get away with everything is common with guys too.
I think what makes people like Asian boss so much, is that you guys deviate from the main stream. You guys are OK with making topics that are “off-the-wall“ and it keeps the experience very fresh. A lot of media companies feel like they have an obligation to be ultra serious when they are reporting on stuff. More of this, please!😆
The guy with the north face jacket is amazing !!!! I love his energy and the way he talks
Haha this is so interesting and informative! Thank you Asian Boss! As for no thank you all the time among friends is spot on. That’s why in Chinese 不用谢 means you are welcome, and it literally means you don’t need to say thanks, or 不客气, literally means don't be so polite, don't be a stranger to me and they mean it. 😂
I can't get over how interesting this is. I've always wanted this topic in particular to be discussed and here it is! Keep up the good work Asian Boss, I also hope to see more of such topics in the future.
When you are drawn to a different country or culture it can be indicative of a past life. It's quite a beautiful thing to see especially since we have means for people to travel and be where they want.
Where you from? I am originally from Romania, travelled and worked abroad for past 20 years or so, last 13 in the UK though. I always was drawn to Colombia and Japan. Married the mother of my daughter in 2014 in Colombia, we lived in the Uk, separated last year, I love Colombia, we ll stay close for sake of our daughter. My next thing is Japan( I mean look at my RUclips account name:))) I am 41 y old male and still attractive, we fell out of love since I was always busy to study and support the 3 of us. Seems silly for many but she took it really serious and eventually we fell apart, no arguments no cheating. So I’m thinking to go Japan at some point and who knows what life will offer me.
@@japanluv I am from California but have done a fair amount of travel around US, Western Europe, and Latin America. I've lived and worked in Bolivia & Honduras - definitely feel a very strong connection with the culture and people. I speak Spanish fairly fluently which surprises native speakers and am often complemented on accent. I know I've had a past life in Latin America somewhere and those ties filtered into this lifetime.
What a beautiful story you have. It is something very special to feel such deep connections and be able to experience it.
@@namehere4954 Thank you for sharing your experience:D I am considering returning to Romania since I feel attached to homeland but would still want to do a fair bit of travel. Had a trimaleolar fracture last year at work( In an ICU nurse) so I’m reevaluating life and among music production and videography, I need a way to freedom as in time to do what I want when I want. I’m going to take Forex trading very seriously and that will let me earn from anywhere in the world with an internet connection. It will take me a while but will be a skill for life. Funny enough I am born on Independence Day of USA and after work on cruising ships wanted to come and live in USA. Passed an interview in 2006 and supposed to work as Food and Beverages Supervisor trainee in Embassy Suites Hotel in Arlington Virginia near Pentagon. They didn’t grant me visa at US embassy so came to the Uk instead. I still haven’t visited USA but my dream was to live in California.
I'd love a video on the LGBT scene in China, hearing the guy talking about it in this video was super interesting
let's me tell u,Young people accept lgbtq, we respect, and some schools even have some activities, but the elderly probably can't accept it and may not have heard it at all😂
In Asian culture, the eldest son will have to live with their parents and look after them when they become old. In some culture, the youngest son will look after. This is the big diffirence with American culture.
Not all Asian countries bro the parents except time to time attention and a good relationship with their children sometimes financially also but generally children don't live with their parents in metro cities
Definitely not the case in China except when the parents are not able to look after themselves. Chinese children always show filial respect to their parents but not live with them.
Same in india too
@@mrityunjaygangsta7326 Yep. It is because of work place. These day I many children leave their parents home in search for good opportunity in other cities or even in same city nearby office. I also don't live together with my parents due to my work place but definitely I visit them every year and it is my duty to take care of them when they are old. I want to bring them to my work place but they don't want to leave our hometown and house.
@@MrKingchamp1000 India is in Asia ;)
I would certainly like to see more videos like this on the other countries too. Maybe about the life of mixed couples
@@rfart1239 oh I meant doing it in other countries like South Korea, Japan, etc. Doesn't have to be americans it can be just foreigners
@@rfart1239 relax I didn't even find it aggressive, have a nice day
@Papesan ’s channel has some content about that you should check it out
agree
Haven't they already done the mised couples thing?
5:04 Love her reaction there! how cute!
I love this so much! I'm from the US but I grew up in China from the time I was 6 years old to 18. Now I'm back in the US for college but man I miss China!
My fiancé (Mexican) & I (Filipino) are both first generation Americans in our families & we bump into cultural dating differences a couple times a year! lol 😆
is there cultural difference between filipino and mexican? you are both espanol~
@@bohu1701 No we’re not
His date's name is Gucci? Yea its quite common chinese (and Thai) women use brand names as their English names. But also a blessing, as that name basically sums up everything about her LOL
I believe some said in China it's vivian.
I actually got interviewed by a vivian
Hahahaha
really? Common? I thought we Chinese prefer Apple? Never heard about Gucci as a girl's name,hahah
In Thailand, people don’t give their own name Gucci, Prada or anything like that, it’s there parents who give you that name as a nickname. Most Thai people have 2 names, nickname and real name, both names were given to them by their parents when they were born but nickname is an informal name and doesn’t show on ID card unlike real name so their parents can give them any nickname the parents want, for example like Star Wars? Name your kid “Jedi” as a nickname, your husband proposed you while you were traveling in Egypt together? Give you kid a nickname “Pharaoh” as a reminder of those great time the parents were traveling together etc etc. so in Thailand case, the name is not gonna sum up anything about that person but will sum up about their parents.
Gucci is an Italian surname.
It's true!
Living with your spouse's family after marriage can be suuuper helpful in a lot of cases as long as there are proper boundaries (if both of you work, have kids, etc..).
Of course that can also mean it can go horribly wrong (no privacy, toxic environment, lack of space...etc)
It's very common in South Asian cultures as well
"dude, this lady wants to kill you" love love love how parents show love by being overprotective. Plot twist is she might get so cool that she now takes your side over her son's during arguments. Wish you guys the best
I don't know how to explain but I really felt what the 'Thank You' guy meant it
Ain't no sense dating if there is no intensity plan and desire for a long term relationship down the line but is great to get out there and get to know ppl!
@@BlueskyDenver in the wise words of Chris Rock.
"There's no soul mate, ....There's a mate."
He attached someone when you are single and you are attached to someone when he's single.
My professor ran the numbers as a statistical example. He was calculating on the number of people someone has to date to find the potential one with the given criteria.
College age, common, interests, similar finances....
That person had to go on about 5 dates a day for the next 15-17 years.
Hope Todorova let things fall into place what meant to be will be!
@@BlueskyDenver I agree.
Yeah...that was ten years ago when social media isn't as big or invasive and people's psyche were somewhat more stable. Now the numbers are probably much worse.
I realized at 19 yrs old that the ideal relationship between men and women have existed, because they voluntarily wanted to share a part of their life with that person. It is a want not a need. Thus their own contentment and happiness rely on themselves mostly.
So, they must possessed self awareness physically, mentally, spiritually and financially.
It was always strange to me growing up in the West that teens in middle school have boyfriends and girlfriends.
In the traditional culture of dating and courtship, it was used as a step towards marriage and a family.
If people just exercise a small amount of standards it would eliminate a huge amount of the current problems.
Example.
Before you sleep with that person.
Make sure that they have good finances, little to no debt with savings.
Good health and strong ethical values.
No STDs or STis.
That's like 95%-98% of the dating population is eliminated.
That's just the basics, just incase you knock someone up that you have the finances to take of that child. That child won't have health problems, because of genetics.
Noticed I left out education, religion, politics, home economics, number of sexual partners etc.... Add those in and pretty much, just give up.
Of course you should possessed those qualities yourself if you seek a partner that can match it. I do possessed those qualities.
I disagree with the waiting for God to send someone to towards my way. You need to be proactive and at the same time always improve yourself to be ready for that person.
@@BlueskyDenver I agree somewhat.
I guess you can called me a Buddhist but I practice a belief that is distinctive to my culture, in essence aligning with the Buddhist philosophy.
The Buddha does not spent time explaining about the Creator or God, as it does nothing for the liberation of the human soul. The universe is not loving nor is it evil, it just is, same for the Tao.
Faith alone won't do it, it is also your own effort of free will that cuts the karmic cycles. So effort is needed to find that person. Thus you practice meditation. If you can come enlighten without any effort then everyone would be have achieved it already. Enlightenment can be spontaneous or achieved through practice, that's a debate for another time.
Of course it is always good to practice right thought, speech and action daily.
Mediation and chants are tools, just like Koans are tools to break the human learned foundation, which brings you closer to enlightenment.
The "know" that we are based our understanding and interaction with the world is learned through our physiology experience, thus won't allow you to reach enlightenment/spiritual freedom.
Karmic debt or fate is a hard concept to explain sometime. Your coincidental chance of exchanging your ideas to me could be consider a karmic tie. If we were to apply the Karmic laws in the application of romantic relationship, then it is not a good thing. Because it will impede the spiritual liberation of cutting the reincarnation cycle.
It could be karmic that you met that horrible person to pay debt a off by learning that can help your spiritual growth. If I were to intervene then I will be standing in your way of learning your lesson.
In short you will have to make some effort to meet that person. But that's a debate of fate and karma and free will.
@@Ryo8761 yup those basics before you get into personality, religion and such I agree hardly the majority of population cover these. They’re lacking in at least 1 or more. I cover them but its frustrating because I hardly find anyone attractive, if they cover the basics, nice personality and funny and even just an 8/10, I wouldn’t mind. Doesn’t even cover that. But then again where I live people have low standards for themselves yet some got high standards for they who they want. It’s ridiculous. Some don’t want to put effort yet want someone out of their league or think I would be interested in them. Rather be alone then settle. Being single is way better in my case then and only insecure people would be mopping around about being single simply because they don’t value or love themselves enough to not need someone or seek affection.
I can't imagine how much change the older generations in China have seen! They've grown so much in the past few decades
The "thank you" thing is so real!! I say thank you here in the US all the time, but in China, I only say that to strangers but almost never to close friends or family, I'm still the same person and stay polite all the time, but it's just a cultural thing
Let me get one thing straight, going to set-up dates while in a relationship is just messed up. If any girl does that to me, I would end the relationship right there. I’m Chinese, and I absolutely hate those set-up dates under any circumstances.
That's basically the storyline of The Big Sick based on their real life relationship. he was dating his now wife while his parents were setting him up on arranged marriage dates
Okay we'll keep this in mind
Set up dates are alright as long as you dont know it is a set up date (because you already know that its a "date" instead of meeting a new friend) which is why i never regard myself as dating someone unless they make it official. Anything before being official is just friends hanging out
thats how most women in america are sadly
This is very interesting. The last lady is spot on, we are all humans regardless of culture and race we all crave love, companionship and happiness. Great video Asian boss, love your channel xx
It’s disgusting race mixing is 🤮
Your content served a unexpected twist, I listened waiting for “getting to the point” culturally speaking, overall great interviews
I’m noticing a trend here with bigger black women living in Asia. They think Asian men are fantasizing about their “curves” when in fact they are probably not interested at all. If this comment offends you... sorry but reality can be harsh.
But how do you even know?
@@percycat213 most of my friends are Korean and I can assure you they don’t fantasize about overweight black women.